I am a 23-year-old gentleman married to a 22-year-old lady and blessed with a two-year-old son.
Rue to recklessness and irresponsibility, which came out of trying to exercise my freedom as a youth, I made a girl pregnant yet munhu wandaingoti kuvaraidza nguva naye chete something which I am not proud of but happened anyway.
At this time I was about to go to university and she was afraid of losing me that she lied that she was pregnant and I denied it for almost a month. I later tried to be reasonable and figure a way out, that’s the time she became pregnant for real and she eventually gave birth.
This almost cost me my university opportunity but my parents allowed me to go and they took care of the girl, something I honour them for and thank God dearly. I never loved this girl but out of sympathy that I ruined her education (since she became pregnant while she was studying for A-Level) I tried to tolerate her and the worst part is she loves me so much to an extent of seeing no hope or light without me.
At the time I made her pregnant, I had another girl whom I was deeply in love with and had plans of marrying after I finished my education but I did not marry her and I opted for my baby mother instead.
Despite all the drama that happened we continued to see each other. It has been three years now since I married my baby mother and we are still in love.
The problem is last year I decided to leave all things behind and start to serve the Almighty and since then I have received three prophecies from three different prophets in two different churches that I am destined to have a great and prosperous future but for this to happen I need to stay with my current wife.
The moment I received the last prophecy I decided to end my relationship with the other girl I was in love with. It was tough for both of us, and her being a Christian, she accepted it but it pained her.
Recently she told me that she is three months pregnant. She is not threatening or demanding anything but just to let me know.
I do not doubt her at all. Now I am confused because I am still in love with her and I know she is still in love with me but on the other side prophecies are saying the one living with my parents is the channel to my good fortune.
Mai Chisamba, I am confused and am really clueless as to what to do. Is it the devil making me love the other girl so that I will not reach my destiny or this is real and our long-awaited dream is still alive? I have never poured my soul to anyone, I am doing so to you seeking advice. Please assist.
MAI CHISAMBA RESPONDS
You have described yourself well — you are very confused. I have always thought that education improves our reasoning capacity but I am failing to see it in you.
My heart bleeds when you say you never loved the girl you impregnated first aingove wekuwaraidza nguva chete. How on Earth can you say that? It is mean and insensitive. Why did you lead her on? How would you feel if someone did the same to your sister or female relatives?
We should treat each other with respect you do not buy time by impregnating someone you have no feelings for, she is not a toy she is a precious human being. It is sad that this loveless affair produced a child who needs to be looked after by both parents. Why did you marry her in the first place iwe usingamude? You have been cheating on her ever since.
You say last year you decided to serve the Almighty. In which way since your cheating behaviour never changed? I always say a loveless marriage is like being sentenced to life in prison.
The other lady you claim to love is now pregnant. Why do you continue creating families you cannot look after?
Now you want to keep the woman you do not love because the prophecies say she has the keys to the good life, what a shame!
Set this woman free. Let her go. She can definitely get someone who will genuinely love and appreciate her. You can go to a civil court so that you pay for child support.
I do not want to dwell on prophecies but for arguments sake if it does not come true then what happens to this woman? Go ahead and marry the woman you have feelings for because that is what marriages are for.
If you marry for any other reason it will not last and you will be full of regrets. Thank you for pouring out your soul, a problem shared is a problem halved. Please take it one step at a time, at 23 your life is full of negative drama. Semunhu akatendeuka take Christianity seriously and follow its teaching. I wish you all the best.